Love Essentially: 7 Tips to turn a first date into many, many more
By Jackie Pilossoph
We’ve all been there. You’re sitting across the table from someone who you think is close to perfect. Smiling from ear to ear, you sip wine and barely eat as you gaze into his or her beautiful eyes, unable to believe that after countless awful dates, you actually met someone who stopped your world.
I’m describing a really, really great first date. Unfortunately, no one gets too many of those, as lots of first dates end in disappointment, irritation, and nightmare stories you end up sharing with your friends. So, how can you turn a first date into many, many more?
When to Tell Your Sweetheart About Your Money Problems
Our very own Emily Fry is featured in this article – lending her advice on when to share your financial woes with your partner and how it affects your relationship.
It’s a question that comes up for anyone in a new relationship with the misfortune of having nothing resembling a fortune: If you’re dating someone and you have money problems, when should you bring it up?
After all, if you two eventually marry, your credit card debt, unpaid tax bill and the lien on your house will be your partner’s headache as well.
Should you tell all on the first date? Or say nothing until you’re both head over heels in love and then casually mention you have some baggage – the kind that comes with an expensive price tag?
There is no right or wrong answer, of course, but here’s advice from some experts in the dating and financial worlds.
Emily Fry, professional matchmaker with It’s Just Lunch Chicago sat down with WCIU’s You & Me in the Morning to discuss dating habits that you should leave behind in 2013 and how to approach dating in the new year.
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Dating Advice for Single Dads
Emily Fry, professional matchmaker with It’s Just Lunch sat down with Fox Chicago to discuss advice and great dating tips for single Dads in Chicago who are ready to reenter the dating scene.
Friday, June 14, 2013
Lunch Dates for Midlife Singles
There’s a lot of pressure with first dates when you’re a midlife single, especially if it’s your first date in a long time. Lunch dates are great because (much like a coffee date) the end time is pretty much determined in advance. This makes it easy to exit without awkwardness or excuses.
Another benefit is cost. If you’re unsure whether or not you’ll hit it off with someone, lunch is lighter on the budget than dinner followed by drinks and dessert. What’s more, the tone of the date is lighter and less serious so you’re less apt to be nervous for lunch dates.
You can always arrange your own lunch dates, of course, or you can opt to go with a service. Arguably the most popular service is It’s Just Lunch, which has been in business over twenty years.
There are a couple of dating business models I really like. One is called “It’s Just Lunch.” The site sets up a dozen lunch-date meetings. You chat over a delicious lunch and then say goodbye. If you like each other, you proceed. If not, it’s just lunch. Another model I like is the one where people are seated at a round-table dinner. Every 10 minutes people switch chairs so they are seated next to a different person. In one evening you have the opportunity to meet 10 or 12 different possible candidates for dating. It’s time effective.
When it comes to dating, online or in person, luck is involved. I know wealthy single people who paid exorbitant matchmaking fees and got no results. On the other hand, I know folks who used free dating sites and found their match. I think the key is to follow your own intuition about the most comfortable model to use and stay in action mode. When it’s no longer comfortable–stop. Explore other avenues. Don’t remain stagnant–keep trying!
Nearly 1 in 4 couples meet online, so WGN Midway News featured It’s Just Lunch Chicago Matchmaker Emily Fry offering her tips on how to avoid the pitfalls of online dating. Chicago’s Very Own WGN
Friday, May 24, 2013
Emily Dishes Dating Advice On “Ask The Expert” on Fox 32 News
It’s Just Lunch matchmaker Emily Fry was featured on the “Ask The Expert” series and answered questions from viewers about trusting online prospects, new dating expectations, high standards and how important self-confidence is. Chicago News and Weather | FOX 32 News
Monday, March 18, 2013
It’s Just Lunch Matchmaker Emily Fry Discusses New Dating App’s
It’s Just Lunch matchmaker Emily Fry explained how convenient mobile dating apps can be, and how people use them is changing. Check out how you can maximize the way you date. Chicago News and Weather | FOX 32 News
Monday, March 18, 2013
Matchmaker Emily Fry: Having Fun The Single Way on Valentine’s Day
People seem to have a love-hate relationship with Valentine’s Day, especially with the lovey dovey mushy stuff. Matchmaker Emily Fry from It’s Just Lunch explains how singles can escape and have a great night out. Chicago News and Weather | FOX 32 News